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My mom and opiates

My mom and opiates

From the time I was born 'til about the age of 4 my mom wanted drugs more than she wanted me. My mom and dad were both junkies. Luckily I had aunts and grandpartents to keep me, but was pretty much tossed around the family the whole time. The year I turned five was when she FINALLY found N.A. & A.A. meetings and God of course! She then met Emmitt and they stayed together 'til I was 18. She stayed clean and sober for 13 years, she along with my step dad was the coach of my T-ball team "T-Birds", we always went on vacations, and just always had the best times while she was clean. I'm so glad she was clean and sober while raising me! When I was 18 Emmitt and my mom split up, turns out he had been cheating on her. Seems like right after all that happened is when mom began taking Hydrocodones to give her energy while working a waitress job. 1 turned in to 2 then 3 and so on.. 'til she started looking for something stronger, which turned out to be Delaudid. People she worked with began seeing how messed up on the job she was and fired her. She then got off the drugs for a while and started seeing my real dad again. That went well for a while, 'til old habits started up again. I remember trying to put up a christmas tree with her and her just nodding off the whole time. They were doing heroin for a year or so 'til they couldn't stand it any longer. So they both got off heroin but I believe they were still doing Delaudid, but they were not getting back together. So she began hanging out with the wrong people, cooking dope, and shooting up. 'Til one day the cops kicked in her door and everyone there went to jail, which was 5 people. When she got out of jail she started going back to N.A. & A.A. meetings again and actually stayed clean for a while. Just here recently I've noticed she's going right back to her old ways. She went to the casino the other day and claims she lost her phone so I couldn't get ahold of her and was worried sick. So I went to her house to check on her and she had one guy in the garage working on a car and one guy passed out in her bed and she was no where to be found. I'm not real sure what to do anymore.. I just wish I had the balls to tell those guys to get out of her house and never come back, then there's another part of me that wants to just shut her out of my life. What do I do!? 

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Categories: Family, Mother, Heroin, Other Drugs, Opiates, Prescription Drugs

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December 09, 2013 | Swiszyrane

This is definately a post for me to borokamk. As a parent I am always keen to read up on ways to help my children make the right choices about alcohol and drugs. And as a recovering alcoholic I am interested in the possible genetic influence.I’m was so glad to read don’t teach them to experiment with drugs/drink at an early age.’ Many parents do think it is okay to introduce both of these as a way of normalising, but as rightly point out, the young brain isn’t developed enough to handle it.Brilliant post Lisa!

February 11, 2013 | MARY

Go to ALANON and the people there will share how they successfully learned to love their addicts and themselves at the same time!

February 10, 2013 | Matt

It’s always a painful situation when a loved one is an addict.  It sounds like you have handled it well so far.  I have been clean and sober for 3 years now this time around.  I have loved ones with the same problems that I once had.  I had to cut those people out of my life until they hit their bottom.  I am always there to support someone who needs and wants help.  But until they want it, I can’t do anything.  That’s how I was also.  Today is beautiful and from what I have seen, anyone has the ability to get clean one day at a time.

February 09, 2013 | FeFe

Dear My Mom and Opiates,

You are the child not the parent.  Just as parents often times must use tough love when dealing with unhealthy behaviors from children the same applies here.  You can love your mom and pray for her but you do not have to be responsible for her.  If you know she is using turn her in it could save her life.  No one has to know you turned her in as the cops will protect your identity.  Most law enforcement agencies have a great desire to protect the citizens of their communities by assisting in getting addicts off the street and onto a road of recovery.  Try to get involved in Alanon or a community support group in your area. You are in my prayers sweetie and so is your mother.  God bless you.

February 09, 2013 | Robbie

Speak up and never give up on her. I’m 35 with 6 months clean and have been back and forth in addiction like your mother. My parents never gave up on me and if I had the chance I would do the same for them. It is hard but something you do or say may be the one thing that saves their life. Best of luck and stay strong.

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